Reimagine, redesign and rebuild the love you are craving.
Are you living your life in a disconnected relationship?
If you are choosing to be with each other, damn, you want to be thriving together. Making each other’s life better for having each other in it. But life changes and throws lots of outside noise at our relationship that can impact it, damage our connection, and even make each other feel like the enemy. Sometimes you can build up resentment, or maybe you have simply turned away to lead separate lives. Maybe you don’t know how to reconnect but you DO know no longer are you willing to settle for the unfulfilling dance you have going on now because this is the one and only life you get to live.
So how are you going to choose to love and be loved? Are you ready to renovate what you have with your partner, in order to consciously create something better?
Renovations require smashing down some walls, building new foundations, and then choosing what colour paint to decorate with. Other times we may just need to freshen up with some art and cushions. What we know is if you want the end product to look different from how it is now, you can’t just stand around and moan and bitch, or look at others’ homes with envy wishing yours was different. You have to do the work. And since a relationship is with more than just one person, you both have to do the work.
It can yield great results, but it also requires some hard truthful moments, learning some, sometimes challenging, new tools, and gaining some fresh insights.
If you want change but want to stay passive, please know this isn’t for you. If you are looking to have someone tell you, that you are right and your partner is wrong, this also is not the right place.
My offerings require you to dig deep and take risks but my commitment is to help your relationship be connected, loving, and supportive.
Sessions are designed for you and your partner:
To have tools for each other to be heard, seen, and understood.
To learn new ways to do conflict, where you don’t do more damage.
To be on each other’s team and support each other’s dreams.
To be close. Physically and emotionally.
To share this one precious life in LOVE and enjoying each other.
And we both know, when you feel close to your loved one, everything else in life feels better.
Testimonials
“Before we started therapy, I had resigned to the idea that this was as good as it was going to get. We didn’t really fight much, but we weren’t having much fun either and slowly I started to feel really deflated about it and actually got to the point I thought about leaving. That’s when my husband and I decided we had to try something and I am so glad we did. It hasn’t been easy but I feel closer to him than I have in years and I feel like we are on the same team again. Just wish we had done something like this sooner.”
James & Anna
Ryan & Tess
“The biggest takeaway from seeing Gemma with my girlfriend was learning how to talk about hard things. I hadn’t realised I had been communicating in a way that not only hurt her, but it also wasn’t helping me be heard.”
The Process
Relationship Health Assessment
We begin with a relationship assessment so I can understand where your relationship is and with this information, we can make an individualised plan to work towards strengthening your relationship. You and your partner will both complete the Gottman Connect Relationship Questionnaire and will both attend a 90-minute consultation with me to obtain a history of your relationship.
After this, you will each attend an individual 90-minute consultation to obtain your personal history. After this, you will both attend a 90-minute feedback consultation during which we will discuss the current condition of your relationship and identify evidenced-based processes, tools and strategies to begin to help you address these.
Creating conscious change
After your assessment, couples therapy sessions are scheduled weekly to begin. The focus of these sessions will be to help you learn how to move out of painful gridlocked escalated conflict, repair old unprocessed hurts and misunderstandings and move towards a relationship that feels more understanding, connected and attuned. It is a space for couples to re-design, re-imagine and re-build a better more satisfying and happier life together.
It will involve spending time working together at home to ensure you can consistently put your new skills, strategies and behaviours into action, which does require commitment.
Sometimes when we are working through a large or multi-layered obstacle if you both choose, we can schedule a 3-hour intensive marathon session
How much will it cost?
$160 per hour
How long will we need to see you for?
This varies from relationship to relationship. These sessions are designed intentionally for you both to heal, grow and connect together. I am only a facilitator and it is my intention to get you both to a place where you do not need me. However, most couples do need a minimum commitment of three months depending on the state of their relationship. Once a couple feels confident positive change is woven between them, we fade out sessions to monthly, then every three or six months to prevent a relapse.
I see couples in-person in Sydney and from around Australia online.
Nervous about online? A study published in the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy found that couples who participated in online therapy reported similar outcomes to those attending in-person sessions. Participants in the study who did online relationship counselling noted improvements in communication, emotional intimacy, and conflict resolution.
